Looking for a serious relationship is no easy task, especially in 2021. Thanks to social distancing, the disconnectedness of modern life and the rise of app-dating, starting a serious relationship is more challenging than ever.
Does that mean you should give up looking for a serious relationship?
Instead of waiting for the dream relationship to fall into your lap, or ‘the one’ to arrive at your doorstep wearing a sign, you have to go out into the world, prepared and ready to manifest that dream relationship in your life.
But, if you are unsure how to start looking for a serious relationship, then you are in the right place!
From my experience in relationship therapy, and also in my personal life, I have learnt a thing or two about how to approach finding a serious relationship. Which is why I feel compelled to write this article as the next stop on my Relationship Blog Series (more here).
Tip 1: Make Intentional Decisions
Very rarely in life do things ‘just happen.’ Think about the job you are currently working, the course you are studying, the clothes you are wearing, the place you are living- did those things ‘just happen’?
Along the way, you made conscious and intentional decisions to invest your time, money and energy. These e applies to looking for a serious relationship. Intentional decisions could be downloading a (serious/reputable) dating app, putting the word out to your friends to organise some introductions or joining a social or community group where you can meet new people.
Intentional decisions could also be reviewing where you are currently spending your time and energy. If that’s gaming with the boys, or brunching with your girlfriends, then frankly you are not being intentional about finding a romantic relationship. So, maybe it’s time to do less of those activities, and devote more time to situations where there is the possibility of a relationship developing.
Tip 2: Do the necessary self-work before looking for a serious relationship
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